The Mighty Four
No matter what goal my clients choose, we always end up working on what I call the “Mighty Four”:
1. Sleep,
2. Nutrition
3. Exercise and
4. Connection
I have been thinking about how we take care of ourselves and those around us. It always comes down to making sure we have the “mighty four” in place. Hang in here with me while I talk about not only why these are crucial, but also that I understand that finding the time and energy for them is hard and sometimes even impossible.
I am posting about this because there may come a time when we need some help, assistance or coaching, to manage these critical elements of self-regulation. There is no shame in getting help with these. As author KC Davis would say, they are “morally neutral”.
As “ADHDers” is critical that we find some time each day to recharge and reset our batteries. We need more energy to complete daily tasks than a neurotypical person might. It is often an uphill battle for us to get started on and complete things. When we take care of the “Mighty Four”, we give ourselves the best chance to succeed.
Together they are the foundation of self-care. Author Dayna Abrahm calls self-care the “S-Word” because many of us do not have time or money for spa days and personal trainers.
We must come up with ways to replenish physical, mental, and emotional energy or we will burn out. Burnout affects our jobs, our relationships, our parenting, and our own mental health – but you already know that. Statistically, adults with ADHD are three to six times more likely to suffer one or multiple burnouts. (Brattberg G., 2006).
I will be posting more about burnout – specifically how to prevent it. This topic that comes up with every person I coach – because the mighty four are mighty hard to fit into our already busy days. Or maybe you have already hit burnout and are too exhausted to even consider it?
Either way, it is a great starting place for coaching. We can work together to find out what works best in realistic and practical ways for you and your situation.
